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Parental conflict

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Parental conflict can have negative and long-lasting effects on children.

Children can usually cope with and adapt to difficult situations such as separation and divorce, but bitter, unresolved, hostile conflicts can severely damage a child emotionally. The longer the conflict continues the greater the negative impact on a child’s mental health.

Conflict brings tension, chaos, disruption and unpredictability. Children feel anxious, frightened or helpless, rather than safe and secure. They worry about taking sides and often feel responsible for the fighting. This leads both to emotional distress and feelings of guilt.

Shielding children from hostile interactions and modelling mature, respectful communications will mean your child is less likely to become argumentative and untrusting later in life.

If your relationship is in conflict, please see the links in the further information section for ways to help yourself and your children, including how and where to seek professional support if necessary.

Domestic abuse

Domestic abuse includes:

  • physical abuse
  • sexual abuse
  • emotional abuse
  • financial abuse
  • psychological abuse

It can take many forms and it is often difficult to leave an abusive partner. There are many ways both women and men who may be victims of domestic abuse can reach out for support, but we understand how hard this may be. It is never the victim’s fault. Please see the Further Information section for links to your local council support page.

You can always call the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247. This is a 24 hour advice line.

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call 999. If you are unable to talk please select ’55’ after you’ve heard the automated message which starts with ‘you are through to the police’. The police will then know it is not safe for you to speak, and will ask you questions which you can answer through your key pad.

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Further information

How arguments affect children

Relate's website has helpful information on how parental conflict can affect children and how as parents you can work together to mitigate this.

Chronic parental conflict

This useful article examines what parental conflict is, how it affects kids and what you can do about it.

Divorce, separation and shared parenting

The Family Lives website offers advice on divorce, separation and shared parenting, as well as live online chat and a confidential helpline.

Wakefield Council - Domestic Abuse support

If you are a victim of domestic abuse or worried about someone else who may be in Wakefield, click here. You will find support and resources, including local help lines and more information about types of abuse.

Bradford Council - Domestic Abuse support

If you are a victim of domestic abuse or worried about someone else who may be in Bradford, click here. You will find support and resources, including local help lines and more information about types of abuse.